I think I’m terrible at giving gifts in the traditional sense. I always want to buy people something I would want and just hope that they will like it as well. Every now and again I’m really in touch with what the person enjoys or wants or needs and I get satisfaction out of making em happy that way. But in the past when I’ve gotten to know people I’ve always had this tendency to burn them CD’s. There are the rare grip of people who actually appreciate this. But the general tendency of humans, I’ve noticed, is to not care that much for something unless it was their idea. I’ve learned over time that to dodge disappointment required me not suggesting movies, music, and books very often. 3 of the things that I am voracious for. I know this sounds like accepting defeat or being pessimistic, but I’ve begun to value my opinion about these things and feel similarly that giving it out is only worth it if I know the individual will equally value the suggestion.
It was a Christmas (2008 I believe) and I gave my girlfriend some 10,000 songs on her Ipod…this is an estimate. She deleted them after we broke up, along with all the great pictures we took…bummer. I feel I can say this because I’m more than positive she doesn’t read this blog. And it’s not vindictive in anyway. It’s just to say that I’ve used music as love my whole life. When I love someone, I often want to give them music, watch great movies, or suggest fabulous books that I’ve read.
So let me put it this way. If I ever suggest artists or better yet want to make you a burned CD…it means love.